Monday, June 18, 2012
Let you in on a secret
“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
-Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
His first secret is "Have a Mind That Is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing." Remember the idea for this blog was born from a realization that I had been carrying around a lot of guilt and that guilt was coming in part from unrealistic expectations (attachments). A friend of mine who is a professional home organizer once spoke of this same concept in physical terms, "if your hands are full and clinging to the contents, they can not be open to receive. If your closets are full, you can't get new clothes." I have also heard it explained in biblical terms "nature abhors a vacume." Dyer puts this concept to work on our thoughts.
Dyer's second secret is "Don't Die with Your Music Still in Your Head". This one really hit home. In short, we were all put on this earth to make our own individual mark. Whether you were born to be a pediatric surgeon or a sculptor or a writer, you have a unique purpose. Are you on your path or someone else's? If your not on your path, you probably already know it deep down and that is likely causing some internal conflicts like frustration, despair or guilt.
Here is the rest of the top ten:
3. You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have
4. Embrace Silence
5. Give Up Your Personal History
6. You Can't Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It
7. There Are No Justified Resentments
8. Treat Yourself As If You Already Are What You'd Like to Be
9. Treasure Your Divinity
10. Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You
Some of what he says is things that we all instinctually know to be true, but Dyer illustrates his points with thought provoking examples and logical metaphors. We are what we think we are. Our relationships are what we think of them. Change your thoughts and you change your feelings, change your feelings and you will change your way of life.
I leave you with this question: Does one of those secrets resonate with you?
The most empowering thoughts you can have are those of peace, joy, love, acceptance and willingness. These thoughts don't create a counter-force. Powerful, joyful, loving thoughts stem from your willingness to allow the world to be as it is. Then you're in a state of inner bliss where serenity replaces fighting, reverence for all of life substitutes for craving and anxiety and understanding supplants scorn. You become an optimist.
-Dr. Wayne Dyer